06/10/2026
I do not have a place to judge in the case of Karmelo Anthony. My heart is heavy for everyone impacted by this devastating situation, and I recognize that there are many emotions, perspectives, and unanswered questions surrounding it.
What I do want to speak on is the importance of the work that I do every day.
The practice of mindfulness is not simply about sitting quietly or taking deep breaths. It teaches emotional regulation, self-awareness, and self-control skills that are essential during critical situations when emotions are high and decisions must be made quickly.
The Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) components that I teach daily self-awareness, self-management, responsible decision-making, relationship skills, and social awareness are not optional life skills. They are necessary skills for ALL children and adults to learn and practice. They are especially important for African American young men, who often face unique challenges and pressures as they navigate the world.
Having conversations with your children about situations like this is necessary. However, talking alone is not enough. We must also teach them how to govern themselves accordingly. We must provide opportunities to practice emotional regulation, conflict resolution, assertive communication, empathy, mindfulness, and responsible decision-making before they find themselves in high-pressure situations.
Walking away from conflict is not weakness. Pausing before reacting is not cowardice. Using your words instead of your fists/weapons is not a lack of strength. These actions demonstrate discipline, maturity, and self-control.
As a society, we must place greater value on teaching our children not only what to think, but how to think, how to respond, and how to regulate themselves when life becomes difficult.
Sometimes the most powerful thing a person can do is take a breath, regain control, and choose a different path.
That simple breath can change everything.
K. Bloomfield
Social & Emotional Learning Expert
