Puso at Piso

Yesterday, my husband and I met with his college friend, Deth. As I sat down, she happily asked us, “Kumusta? Kumusta ang buhay may asawa?”

The first thing I thought was, “I need to tell her we’re happy. Being married brings happiness.” I didn’t want to give an answer that sounded anything less than positive. The people-pleaser in me immediately wanted to say good things about married life because that’s how I once viewed marriage—something that should always be a walk in the park. A fairy tale. A happily ever after.

So I answered, “Masaya!” with an awkward smile.
Pero sa loob-loob ko, “Ang plastic ko sa sinabi ko.”

Because the reality is, marriage is not always a walk in the park. We faced many struggles this year in almost every aspect of life—financial, spiritual, and emotional. We had countless arguments. We fought over petty things.

But one thing I’ve learned over the past two years of being married is this: marriage is not about happiness—it’s about commitment. Marriage is not for the weak; it’s for the brave-hearted. Love is not just a feeling—love is a choice. Kasi kung ang ine-expect mo ay puro “happy-happy” lang pag kinasal ka na sa taong mahal mo, pag dumating ang mga pagsubok sa buhay, mabilis kang aalis.

By the way, just so you know—palaging may problema sa buhay. Walang taong may perfect na life. But there’s more to life than simply pursuing happiness. If happiness is the only thing we pursue, life becomes boring—there’s no growth in that mindset.

God created marriage for us to learn how to sacrifice, to forgive, to love unconditionally, and to become more Christlike. (Hirap ako sa mga bagay na ito. I have to rely on God’s grace to live them out.)

Lastly, wag nating ikumpara ang season ng marriage life natin sa ibang mag-asawa. That’s where envy begins—when you compare your life to others. When you focus on the highlights of other couples on social media, it can steal your joy, especially if you fail to appreciate what you and your spouse already have.

Be happy and content with what you have for now while you and your spouse work hard toward your dream life. Commit to building a married life that is truly worthwhile.

“Love is giving yourself to the one that you love.”

“Hindi ito yung tipong pag hindi mo nakuha yung gusto mo iiwan mo na. “

“Pinakamahirap na kalaban yung sarili. Pag di mo na-overcome yung part ng sarili mo na humahatak sayo pababa, hindi ka makakamove-forward; hindi ka magsa-succeed.” — Architect Rojen Cabrera

Me and my husband were talking about business last night and this was my biggest takeaway during that conversation.

Marriage is character over physical attraction.

Marriage is one of the best gifts from the Lord. Masasabi kong sobrang na-eenjoy ko itong season na to. Hindi perfect yung relationship namin ni hubby pero yung grace ni Lord yung dahilan kung bakit mas lalong tumitibay yung pagsasamahan namin.

Huwag tayong magfocus sa mga hiwalayan na nakikita natin. Maniwala parin tayo na true love exists at maganda ang marriage.

Believe me, walang creneate si Lord na pangit.

Madalas kasi ang mga tao mas naka-focus sa negative kesa sa positive. Hindi porket may nakita tayong failed marriages doesn’t mean magfefail narin yung satin.

Marami kaming naging struggle ng husband ko pero we prayed to God to overcome them and become better husband/wife.

We are so excited to walk together hanggang pagtanda. We want to experience the extravagant blessings God has in store for us.

God blesses the man and the woman who chooses to obey His perfect idea about marriage.

Choose a man who will pray for you. Choose a man who will marry you. Choose a man who will obey God in all areas of his life. Choose a man who will fight for your marriage. Choose a man who will be the leader of your family. Choose a man who believes that marriage is a blessing from the Lord. And of course be the wife God wants you be. Be a blessing to your husband. Obey God and submit to your husband.

MARRIAGE TIP! Always make sure to date your spouse once a week.

Bilin samin ng Pastor at Pastora namin during our pre-marriage counseling na magdate kami once a week. Here I am waiting for my husband na matapos yung client meeting niya para makapagdate na kami hehe. Every Saturday kasi ang schedule namin, kaya lang since pareho kaming working, every Saturday din ang laundry day at house cleaning day. Halos naubos oras namin sa paglaba at paglinis ng bahay kaya siningit nalang muna namin yung date. Isa rin sa mga major concerns ko before is yung budget, iniisip ko wag nalang magdate kasi sayang sa pera pero along the way narealize namin mag-asawa na kelangan namin mag-invest sa marriage namin. We don’t have to worry about our finances naman because God is the One who provides for all our needs.

Tiwala sa sariling negosyo, magdudulot ng tagumpay! 💪📈

Man was designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness.

Sharing with you my 300 pesos ukay-ukay wedding gown. Yes! This is just 300 pesos! Kahit ako di makapaniwala sa presyo niya nung tinanong ko yung tindera sa ukay-ukay. I can say that this is really God’s miracle and God’s provision. He knew that I wanted to wear a simple yet cute wedding gown and He answered my heart’s desire by leading me to that ukay-ukay near our wedding venue. God provided for our wedding, He will also provide for you. So stop worrying and entrust everything to the God who is kind and faithful.